4 Rules You Should Follow Before Telling That Special Someone ‘I Love You.’
As intimacy grows in romantic relationships, couples usually end up grappling with a very common dilemma. That is, deciding whether it’s the right time say ‘I love you.’ Saying ‘I love you,’ is a sacred gesture. Mostly because it represents a transition towards commitment in the relationship. Unfortunately, this milestone is difficult to cross when there are doubts about mutual affection from a partner. The risk of being rejected often intimidates people into keeping their relationship casual, even though their lives continue to merge past the point of being casual.
Love is a Leap of Faith:
Professor of Philosophy Aaron Ben-Zeév advises that “Hearing a partner say ‘I love you’ for the first time is regarded as one of the highlights of a romantic relationship. However, people are often uncertain about when to declare their love, and whether to be the first to do so.” This balancing act is what makes saying ‘I love you,’ such a big deal. Here are a few tips on how to confess your love with the right timing:
I. Ask Yourself Why You Want to Say It: Emotions can play tricks on people’s minds. Which is exactly why you should be aware of your motives for saying ‘I love you.’ If the love you’re confessing comes from a place of inspiration, that’s good. But if it’s coming from a place of desperation, that’s a red flag.
II. Think About the Future: Whether or not you mean what you say, confessing love to someone will signal them to start getting comfortable with commitment. This is why you should only say ‘I love you,’ when you’re willing to commit in return. Don’t say ‘I love you,’ unless you’re in it for the long-haul.
III. Say it When You’re Sober: Infatuation and love are two completely different things. Never confess your love unless you know for a fact that what you’re saying is sincere. Don’t say ‘I love you,’ when you’re drunk, don’t say ‘I love you,’ when you’re in lust, and don’t say ‘I love you,’ under pressure.
IV. Don’t Say it to a Stranger: Love is not a superficial emotion. This means it’s not a gift which should be shared in a fleeting way. If you’re going to say ‘I love you,’ get to know the person you’re saying it to first. Confessing love to a stranger will only set you up for heartbreak.
Being in love doesn’t always feel blissful. Sometimes love makes people take emotional risks and put themselves out there. But these risks are only worth it if you’ve chosen someone deserving of your love. So that’s where your focus should be. On building the kind of relationship that justifies a confession of love. Don’t just say ‘I love you,’ because it feels good. Say ‘I love you,’ because it feels true. If you like what you just read from our blog, you’ll love the various informative courses, workshops and events listed on our websites and social media. Whether you’re interested in personal development, or overall improvement of your business, give us a call at 1 (888) 823-7757 to find out how The RISE Academy can help you break past your daily struggles and start soaring in success.